“Before lockdown, all of us would step out of office together everyday, for tea. With lockdown, this is how we keep in touch. Everybody logs in for the video call, depending on the time each person has. We might be meeting virtually, even so we recreate the mood — each one of us has a cup of tea when we log in,” he says. Present and former colleagues/pals are half of this group. Weekends are for video games resembling Pictionary or dumb charades.
Paradoxically, self isolation and social distancing have introduced folks nearer. Hanging out as a group and catching up over a espresso or a drink is off the desk, as are office conferences. With all the gloom round, relationships on the whole and friendships specifically have turn into a lifeline for a lot of. Like for jewelry designer and stylist Raji Anand from Chennai, who lives away from household. Her pals are a useful help system.
She has reconnected with previous pals, whereas some latest friendships have light away to create space for extra significant friendships. “Pre-pandemic, when you socialised over a drink or on an evening out, you were just unwinding. Now, the quality of interaction has changed. More than the people I used to meet regularly, I fall back on those I knew from before to sustain and reassure me during these difficult times. These were people with whom I couldn’t connect frequently due to my hectic schedule,” she says.
For Germany-based Indu Sharma, the lockdown in India means she will be able to meet up with her pals irrespective of clashing time zones. “This time has been one for friends and friendships; thanks to technology and social media it is so much easier,” says Indu whose pals are unfold throughout India, and others components of the world. She interacts with them continuously by means of the day both on WhatsApp or Zoom calls.
Pining for campus
For grown-ups, friendships have been made simpler with time and know-how. But Kochi-based 14-year-old Anu A (identify modified) says friendship simply obtained sophisticated. “With the amount of school work we have thanks to online classes, friends and friendships have dropped to an all-time low on the priority list. All of us don’t have mobile phones or access to social media — how do we talk to each other?” says the Class IX pupil. Anu and her pals tried video calls, “but our schedules clash — either parents are at work or one of us has assignments or tuition. In school, all of us were in the same place and had time for each other.”
Mitr P from Bengaluru, who turns 12 on August 2, says, “I have been doing video calls with my friends. I miss them a lot because online cannot replace the connection I feel with them in school.” But Mitr has made a new buddy: a neighbour’s pet canine named Kishmish. “I was hesitant at first, as I used to be scared of dogs. But she was friendly. She can’t replace my friends, but she is an alternative,” he says.
Raji feels that these friendships — made and rekindled — wouldn’t have occurred if not for the pandemic. “Some friendships have fallen, but I think the ties formed during this time are the ones that will last.”